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Moving Day: A Much Needed Change

This weekend, instead of blogging, I spent my days off moving into a new place.

Together with my girlfriend, we moved all of our plus her mother’s belongings into new apartments.

Moving itself is already a strenuous task; add having to move someone else’s belongings as well and it became daunting.

Somehow the two of us managed to move what felt like a million boxes and the heaviest dining room table in creation with only a few bumps and bruises.

While this was a welcome change, the move brought to light tons of things little things we didn’t realize we needed.

Things we had left behind or thought we didn’t need to bother with and found out later how wrong we were.

Small things like a trash can become a big deal when you have no place to put your garbage.

Toilet paper becomes a red alarm issue when you can’t recall where you packed it.

Needing a can opener officially became a hunt along the lines of National Treasure that almost brought on an argument.

All those same little things compiled can overwhelm you when your dealing with a new environment.

Suddenly our great new apartment wasn’t as shiny and pretty as it had been before we realized what we were lacking.

We allowed the details to block out the bigger picture.

I had to stop and remind myself that while things weren’t immediately perfect, I was starting a new chapter with my family.

That stepping stone was to be celebrated.

When we are deciding whether to start that new venture it can be much the same anxiety.

Details like having the right amount of time or the perfect amount of start up money can throw us off our dreams.

Instead of celebrating that you have made the decision to pursue your dream, little doubts crowd around and remind you of all the little things you might have overlooked or forgotten to plan for.

How can your new business possibly be successful when you’ve managed to miss so many things?

We all as individuals do our best to plan for every outcome, to be prepared.

Yet regardless of how prepared you are, there will always be something that arises that you didn’t have a contingency plan for.

It’s impossible to have everything under your control.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t appreciate the bigger view.

Change is scary.

Routines become comfortable because you know what to expect.

You can feel confident in knowing nothing will happen that you aren’t reasonably prepared for.

So the notion of embarking on a new field of training or a new business can be frightening.

You cannot guarantee your outcome and who knows what may happen along the journey.

But isn’t that apart of the joy of it?

Change is a wonderful thing.

It allows you to grow and become a better person.

Change forces you out of your comfort zone and makes you stretch your mind in ways you maybe wouldn’t have sitting in those same familiar surroundings.

Yes, change is scary but it’s also exhilarating and a great teaching tool.

Pep Talk

There’s Nothing Like a Pep Talk

Today I needed a bit of inspiration.

Not feeling like my usual self I got an unexpected call.

I’ve been wanting to take my business to the next level and actually got a call today from a potential mentor.

Blogging has been a part of my daily activities for the past 4 months.

While things have been moving along at an exciting pace for me I find myself getting stuck some days.

Not really feeling like my vision has a clear path.

The call was much needed and the pep talk has given me new inspiration.

When it comes to blogging or anything online you think you can do it all alone.

Don’t make it so difficult!

There are many people who have walked in your same shoes and have been through the fire.

Why not open yourself up and ask for help?

One thing you’ve got to realize is that ego can get in the way and instead of leading you in the right direction it can hinder you and ever worse hold you back from getting the thing you desire most.

Get Rid of the Ego

These past few months have been difficult for me personally because of EGO and PRIDE.

Not wanting to ask for help, not wanting to seek guidance, and not wanting to take a step back to really see where I’ve been and where I’m going.

Life is funny like that at times, but no matter how many times you mess up you have the opportunity to make a change and fix it.

The change must start within.

And to start that change from within you must let go of that ego.

You can’t make a change if you don’t realize there is a problem first.

I get it…

It’s hard really taking a serious look at yourself and realizing that you need to change.

Realizing that what you’re doing isn’t leading you to the promise land.

It’s hard, but it’s necessary if you want to do better.

It’s easy to get comfortable and think that what you have or where you are at is all that life has to offer.

You’ve got to continue to make yourself uncomfortable if you desire more out of life.

You Get What You Put In

Nothing worth having in life comes easy.

You’re going to have to buckle down and be uncomfortable for a bit.

Change is uncomfortable and until you’re ready to change you’ll continue to get the same results you’ve been getting in your life.

I’ve made the decision to really make a change in my life with many aspects.

Really taking a look at the things I’ve become comfortable with in my life and deciding that something different needs to be done.

3 Steps to Making a Change In Your Life

Knowing yourself is the most important thing a person can have in this life.

If you don’t know who you are you’ll let people and things influence you.

Don’t be that person.

Take control of your life and take a stand on who you want to be.

If you’re stuck, lost, or confused about things going on in your life right now follow these steps:

1. Write Down the Change You Desire

One of the issues with most people is they don’t know what they want.

I lot of people know what they don’t want, but can’t necessarily pinpoint the things they do want.

Take out a few sheets of paper and pencil and jot down everything that comes to mind that you want out of life.

Write down the what’s going right in your life and what’s not going so right.

Find solutions to the problems you’re having and get started on making them happen.

Make a list of your good qualities and the qualities you need to improve on.

There’s a site that I found that gives you exercises in figuring out who you are and how to improve.

Check it out when you get a chance and complete the exercises => Know Thyself <=.

They worked wonders for me and I hope the same for you.

If you can find someone to do them with you even better.

2. Find Someone to Hold You Accountable

When it comes to making change it’s not going to be easy to do it alone.

If you don’t have anyone to hold you accountable for the things you’re supposed to be doing to change, you will easily revert back to your same old ways.

The person you are has become a habit and you’re comfortable with it.

It’s not going to be easy to make the changes you desire if you don’t have someone to assist you along the way.

After writing down the changes you desire share it with someone.

This exercise helps you to put your ego to the side and helps you build a better relationship.

It’s okay to be vulnerable.

You can also invite them to do the exercises with you.

3. Go Over You Exercises Daily

There’s no point of completing the exercises if you’re just going to go over them one time.

If you want to make a lasting change you must review them daily until the words become a part of you.

Review them a least twice a day.

Once before bed and once when you wake up.

Any other time during the day is icing on the cake.

Use your words to fuel you.

Keep the change you desire most on your mind and you will begin to see you new you over time.

It’s going to take some practice, but it’s all worth it in the end if you truly want to make a lasting change.

Begin today to create the life you want.

Don’t allow others to shape who you are.

Take life head on and master yourself.

Best Wishes!

Online Dating

Online Dating Tips

Lately, I have been coming across a lot of online dating sites.

Being a single male I decided to join a couple sites that I have come across just to see what they were about.

I know there are literally a plethora of websites- so when deciding, do your research on the most trusted and reputable sites on the market.

Make sure you have an idea of what you are looking for and the kind of experience you would like to get from your time online.

While browsing some sites it dawned on me that I did not really know how to stand out and get the kind of attention I’d like to have in the online dating world.

So it got me thinking…

What are the best things to do when it comes to online dating?

Tip 1: Finding the best site for you

 Once you have an idea of what you are looking for with your online dating experience you will be able to select the best match for your interests.

There are generally five types of online dating services, which include:

  • General Online Dating- These sites are usually set-up for everyone to be able to view each other and make a decision on who may fit them best based off their profile. Most of the time people are just looking to date and get a feel for one another. Some people join these sites out of curiosity, boredom, or a recommendation. Site examples are Datehookup, POF, and Singlesnet.com.
  • RelationshipRelationship sites are designed to bring people together based on compatibility tests created by psychologists or relationship experts to determine the best match for you based off your answers/responses to questionnaires or tests given. Most of the good sites are paid membership. Site examples are eHarmony, Chemistry.com, or Zoosk. 
  • Social NetworkingThese sites are free of charge and allow you to connect with people all over the world. They are not necessarily used as a dating tool, but can be used to effectively find you a date in the process or being a part of the website if you know what you are doing. Site examples are Facebook, Myspace, Linkedin.
  • Specific (Niche)These sites are usually geared towards bringing people together with specific interest’s, passions, or desires. Site examples are Millionaire Match,Friend Finder, or Christian Mingle

Tip 2: Create a meaningful and truthful profile

I always tell my friends…”Be careful who you speak to because you can be anybody you want to be online these days.”

Make sure that your profile is real and based off what you are about, who you are, and what you are really looking for.

People can usually tell how genuine or sincere you are once they communicate with you either through the phone or in person… if you even make it that far.

So make sure your profile gives them just enough to be enticed to send you a message, but not enough that you are telling your whole life story.

Be short, simple, honest, and to the point.

Tip 3: Spend time reading people’s profile and not just looking at their pictures

People like to know that you have spent some time actually trying to see what kind of person they are.

Nobody wants to spend time on creating a profile and not have anyone read what they wrote.

Send a message letting them know that you have read their profile and are truly interested in getting to know them for who they are and not what they look like.

Tip 4: Post recent pictures of yourself smiling and having fun 

Statistics show that people are more likely to send you a message if you have a picture, but are also more likely to send you a message if you are smiling and look happy in your pictures.

Pictures of you smiling make you seem more inviting, honest, fun, and trustworthy.

Tip 5: Be respectful to others 

The same rules apply online as they do offline.

Treat people they way you would like to be treated and you will have a positive online experience.

Nobody likes to be called names, ridiculed, or criticized.

So make sure you say and do nothing but positive things in your online experience and you will surely have an enjoyable one.

By following these tips I am sure you will have a positive outcome with your online experience.

If it is friendship, a partner, or a lover you seek I wish you the best.

Online dating can be used as a positive tool that can assist you with building character and developing friendships that can last a lifetime.

Best Wishes!

What Does Freedom Mean to You?

You can be in a room filled with many different people and ask the question…

What Does Freedom Mean to YOU? – And I bet you will get a plethora of different answers.

Freedom can mean a lot to someone depending on their circumstances, wants, desires, and needs in life.

Freedom doesn’t have to require money, but can be a statement of time.

It can define a feeling for someone that may feel like something in life is holding them back.

There are so many different ways this question can be answered, but have you actually took the time to answer the question for yourself?

In today’s video I ask you that question and look for an answer of what does freedom mean to you?

What Does Freedom Mean to Me?

To me freedom means the idea of feeling and having complete control over my life.

Not allowing people or outside circumstances dictate my mood and behaviors.

Being able to travel the world whenever I want and not having to worry about money or having to clock into a job.

Freedom to me means, not having to wake up to an alarm clock and looking forward to the next day of being able to pursue my passions, dreams, and hobbies.

I want to be able to spend my time learning, growing, and excelling as a human being in all aspects of my life.

Mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

I believe taking the first step of defining the question What Does Freedom Mean- one can find solutions to solving any problems or issues you may be having.

Freedom starts with a frame of mind and some people, including myself, allow outside influences to dictate how you feel on the inside.

Your definition of freedom can literally be anything you want, but the main thing that needs to be addressed is having complete knowledge of yourself.

You can learn a little bit more about yourself by answering the question: What Does Freedom Mean to You?

So I ask for your answer of what freedom means to you and how you can achieve the level of freedom you desire if you feel as if you aren’t there yet.

Thanks in advance.

Best Wishes!

Success

Being a Success In Life: My Why?

Why do I want success?

As a former successful athlete I want to continue to achieve and accomplish goals that I have set for myself.

I want to prove to myself that I can do anything I put my mind to.

Success in marketing has eluded me because I have not put in the time and effort required to get to where I want to be.

I have not put in the time and effort to learn the strategies needed to be successful in the art form.

I have not put myself in the right circles to learn, grow, and be successful.

Why haven’t I achieved success? Is it laziness, not smart enough, or not determined enough?

I feel like the reason I have not achieved the level of success I desire is because of fear.

The fear to fail, the fear to succeed, the fear of not accomplishing the things I want, hope, and desire.

The problem is it’s much easier to hide behind a wall hoping and wishing instead of doing.

I realize I have to take action, but not knowing how gets in the way.

Not fully believing in me or believing in others gets in the way.

The thing that drives me now is I have no choice to succeed.

If I want to live the life I imagine I have to take action and understand that this is all or nothing.

I want to work for myself. I don’t want to depend on a job, boss, supervisor, or company to have control over my financial future or my time and how I spend it.

I want to travel when I want, spend time with friends and family how I want, buy the things I desire and not have to worry about how much it’s going to cost or how I’m going to pay for it.

I want to help others when they need to be helped.

I want to learn and teach others how to be successful and accomplish the goals they want to achieve.

I want to become a well-rounded person.

Learn daily and teach daily…expand my mind to levels I never thought possible.

I want to see the world from a whole different perspective than what I am use to seeing.

I want to prove people wrong…prove to people that I am successful and even though bad things have happened to me that through it all I prevailed a made a way for me to live the life I deserve.

I want to get out of my father’s home and start planning for a future with a family that I can fully provide for.

I want to be able to drive the car I want to drive, live in the home I want to live in, see the places I want to see, and help the people that truly want to be helped.

My why is not only about me, but about helping others figure out their why or reason.

My why is to be able to help people not be where I am and to live the life they deserve to live because we all deserve to live the life we see for ourselves.

Debt free, stress free, healthy, and financially free. The true definition of wealth!!!

Money can’t make you happy…Huh?

I know that money can’t, doesn’t, and won’t make you happy!!!

But…money makes you free.

Free to do the things in life that make you happy.

I want to take trips on a whim, be able to fish the whole day, invest in other people’s dreams, invest in myself, and learn, learn, learn!!!

Learning through practice and learning through teaching.

For so long I have been comfortable with the life I live.

Not because I enjoy it, but because it’s easy.

Constantly making excuses of why this or that can’t be done, but deep inside the real reason why I haven’t achieved the success I want is because subconsciously I am comfortable where I am.

I am comfortable with having no job, I am comfortable being able to sleep in late and stay up late, I am comfortable with not having much responsibility but taking care of myself.

Time is ticking…And it’s the most precious thing we have in life!!!

I understand that I am getting older and something has to change now.

This is not who I am!!!

And this is not the life I want to live anymore.

I don’t want to have to rely on others to have control over my income, my time, my dreams, or my life.

I want to make other people happy.

I want people to see me as a LEADER, SELF-STARTER, GO-GETTER, and SELF-MADE INDIVIDUAL!!!

Discover how you can figure out your why and pursue your passion here => Discover Your Why <= .

Best Wishes!