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Moving Day: A Much Needed Change

This weekend, instead of blogging, I spent my days off moving into a new place.

Together with my girlfriend, we moved all of our plus her mother’s belongings into new apartments.

Moving itself is already a strenuous task; add having to move someone else’s belongings as well and it became daunting.

Somehow the two of us managed to move what felt like a million boxes and the heaviest dining room table in creation with only a few bumps and bruises.

While this was a welcome change, the move brought to light tons of things little things we didn’t realize we needed.

Things we had left behind or thought we didn’t need to bother with and found out later how wrong we were.

Small things like a trash can become a big deal when you have no place to put your garbage.

Toilet paper becomes a red alarm issue when you can’t recall where you packed it.

Needing a can opener officially became a hunt along the lines of National Treasure that almost brought on an argument.

All those same little things compiled can overwhelm you when your dealing with a new environment.

Suddenly our great new apartment wasn’t as shiny and pretty as it had been before we realized what we were lacking.

We allowed the details to block out the bigger picture.

I had to stop and remind myself that while things weren’t immediately perfect, I was starting a new chapter with my family.

That stepping stone was to be celebrated.

When we are deciding whether to start that new venture it can be much the same anxiety.

Details like having the right amount of time or the perfect amount of start up money can throw us off our dreams.

Instead of celebrating that you have made the decision to pursue your dream, little doubts crowd around and remind you of all the little things you might have overlooked or forgotten to plan for.

How can your new business possibly be successful when you’ve managed to miss so many things?

We all as individuals do our best to plan for every outcome, to be prepared.

Yet regardless of how prepared you are, there will always be something that arises that you didn’t have a contingency plan for.

It’s impossible to have everything under your control.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t appreciate the bigger view.

Change is scary.

Routines become comfortable because you know what to expect.

You can feel confident in knowing nothing will happen that you aren’t reasonably prepared for.

So the notion of embarking on a new field of training or a new business can be frightening.

You cannot guarantee your outcome and who knows what may happen along the journey.

But isn’t that apart of the joy of it?

Change is a wonderful thing.

It allows you to grow and become a better person.

Change forces you out of your comfort zone and makes you stretch your mind in ways you maybe wouldn’t have sitting in those same familiar surroundings.

Yes, change is scary but it’s also exhilarating and a great teaching tool.

Pep Talk

There’s Nothing Like a Pep Talk

Today I needed a bit of inspiration.

Not feeling like my usual self I got an unexpected call.

I’ve been wanting to take my business to the next level and actually got a call today from a potential mentor.

Blogging has been a part of my daily activities for the past 4 months.

While things have been moving along at an exciting pace for me I find myself getting stuck some days.

Not really feeling like my vision has a clear path.

The call was much needed and the pep talk has given me new inspiration.

When it comes to blogging or anything online you think you can do it all alone.

Don’t make it so difficult!

There are many people who have walked in your same shoes and have been through the fire.

Why not open yourself up and ask for help?

One thing you’ve got to realize is that ego can get in the way and instead of leading you in the right direction it can hinder you and ever worse hold you back from getting the thing you desire most.

Get Rid of the Ego

These past few months have been difficult for me personally because of EGO and PRIDE.

Not wanting to ask for help, not wanting to seek guidance, and not wanting to take a step back to really see where I’ve been and where I’m going.

Life is funny like that at times, but no matter how many times you mess up you have the opportunity to make a change and fix it.

The change must start within.

And to start that change from within you must let go of that ego.

You can’t make a change if you don’t realize there is a problem first.

I get it…

It’s hard really taking a serious look at yourself and realizing that you need to change.

Realizing that what you’re doing isn’t leading you to the promise land.

It’s hard, but it’s necessary if you want to do better.

It’s easy to get comfortable and think that what you have or where you are at is all that life has to offer.

You’ve got to continue to make yourself uncomfortable if you desire more out of life.

You Get What You Put In

Nothing worth having in life comes easy.

You’re going to have to buckle down and be uncomfortable for a bit.

Change is uncomfortable and until you’re ready to change you’ll continue to get the same results you’ve been getting in your life.

I’ve made the decision to really make a change in my life with many aspects.

Really taking a look at the things I’ve become comfortable with in my life and deciding that something different needs to be done.

3 Steps to Making a Change In Your Life

Knowing yourself is the most important thing a person can have in this life.

If you don’t know who you are you’ll let people and things influence you.

Don’t be that person.

Take control of your life and take a stand on who you want to be.

If you’re stuck, lost, or confused about things going on in your life right now follow these steps:

1. Write Down the Change You Desire

One of the issues with most people is they don’t know what they want.

I lot of people know what they don’t want, but can’t necessarily pinpoint the things they do want.

Take out a few sheets of paper and pencil and jot down everything that comes to mind that you want out of life.

Write down the what’s going right in your life and what’s not going so right.

Find solutions to the problems you’re having and get started on making them happen.

Make a list of your good qualities and the qualities you need to improve on.

There’s a site that I found that gives you exercises in figuring out who you are and how to improve.

Check it out when you get a chance and complete the exercises => Know Thyself <=.

They worked wonders for me and I hope the same for you.

If you can find someone to do them with you even better.

2. Find Someone to Hold You Accountable

When it comes to making change it’s not going to be easy to do it alone.

If you don’t have anyone to hold you accountable for the things you’re supposed to be doing to change, you will easily revert back to your same old ways.

The person you are has become a habit and you’re comfortable with it.

It’s not going to be easy to make the changes you desire if you don’t have someone to assist you along the way.

After writing down the changes you desire share it with someone.

This exercise helps you to put your ego to the side and helps you build a better relationship.

It’s okay to be vulnerable.

You can also invite them to do the exercises with you.

3. Go Over You Exercises Daily

There’s no point of completing the exercises if you’re just going to go over them one time.

If you want to make a lasting change you must review them daily until the words become a part of you.

Review them a least twice a day.

Once before bed and once when you wake up.

Any other time during the day is icing on the cake.

Use your words to fuel you.

Keep the change you desire most on your mind and you will begin to see you new you over time.

It’s going to take some practice, but it’s all worth it in the end if you truly want to make a lasting change.

Begin today to create the life you want.

Don’t allow others to shape who you are.

Take life head on and master yourself.

Best Wishes!


Not All Habits Are Bad: Make It a Habit

Making good behaviors a habit in your life can be an enormous benefit in changing how you feel about yourself and over time how you view yourself.

When making a conscious effort to change and incorporate positive habits in your life, biologically you give yourself the ability to maintain a healthier and less stressful lifestyle.

Habits become automatic once etched into the subconscious and after you have done the habit for a certain period of time you become unaware that you are even doing it.

Most times we often focus on the negative habits we create, but let’s take a look outside of the box and focus on the positive ones and how we can create more positive habits in our daily functioning.

What Are Some Positive Habits?

This list consists of 5 positive habits I have been working on for a while now.

When I first started they seemed like a difficult task, but as time went on it become a part of my daily regimen whether I feel like doing it or not.

1) Creating a Schedule

Before I made a deliberate effort to create a schedule in my life I was lost.

I didn’t really have much direction or a keen sense of where I was going.

Since I have set down and made a schedule for myself my life seems to have more of a direction and a purpose now.

Structure and routine gives me the ability to be able to accomplish lots of tasks in a fairly decent time frame.

It has helped me tremendously with my work habits and finishing things I set out to complete

2) Eating Healthy and Exercise

I have grouped eating healthy and exercise together because they tend to go hand-in-hand.

At least this applies to me.

I have realized since I have started back lifting and running I make better decisions when it comes to eating healthy.

I have reduced my intake of carbonated beverages, as well as lowered my intake of junk foods.

The results I am seeing from the lifting and running encourages me to eat healthy to continue seeing positive results with the development of my body.

3) Developing Good Reading/Study Habits

I have made it a habit to read daily for at least 30min, as well as watch something positive.

This has reduced my television consumption greatly.

I probably watched up to 20 hours of television per week not too long ago. I am now down to 5 hours or less.

Television doesn’t interest me as much anymore because of the non-value it offers.

Since making an effort to read, watch, and surround myself with positive things my mind always yearns for that feeling/knowledge and it has become easier for me to pick up a book to read.

4) Think Positive

With the reading/study habits becoming a part of my daily routine it has encouraged me to think positively.

Some habits create other good habits without you even knowing.

Not much really gets me down or discouraged anymore.

And when it does…a good read gets me back on track.

I see myself in a much more positive light and no matter what people think or feel about me I understand that it is not my issue, but theirs.

5) Never Give Up

This habit was created because of my ability to always think positive.

When you have a predetermined goal in mind and you know that there is no way you can fail, giving up is not an option.

Just imagine if someone told you that no matter what you did in life you would not fail.

What kinds of things would you set out to accomplish?

What kind of goals would you set for yourself?

I have a never give up attitude since the incorporation of some of my positive habits and I know that everything I go through is just a set up for the come up.

Not all habits are created equal, but I feel that these habits I have discussed can be an asset to your life.

I feel these are good habits to have to become the person you want to be.

The faster you decide to make the effort to change, the faster you create a whole new world and vision for who you can be.

Focus on the positive habits more so than the negative ones and see how rapidly your life begins to change.

Best Wishes!


Life Problems: No Obstacle is Too Great

We all have problems.

Life is full of problems, but it’s how we handle those problems that determine the course of our lives.

Through my studies I have come to realize that the thoughts we think most are who we are, but not who we can be.

Now to some that may not seem like rocket science, but it’s much deeper than what it sounds like on the surface.

I have had many a conversation with friends that don’t believe in the power of thought and feel like the world on the outside determines what goes on in the inside.

They live their lives being reactive instead of proactive.

Responding to situations that happen to them instead of creating the situations they desire for themselves.

I admit to having the same issue, but I now realize that I have the power to change that.

Divine powers have been given to us to create our own realities.

The thoughts that we think all day create the outer world we live in. If you think about nothing all day, nothing changes.

If you do nothing all day, nothing changes.

The problem is when one has this state of mind…

How do you correct it?

When one has been accustomed to thinking or living a certain way it becomes habit.

Often our habits are difficult to change.

Often times we don’t realize our habits are habits because it has become who we “think” we are.

The ability to change by far has to be one of the greatest abilities that have been given to us as human beings.

No other life form on earth has the ability to become anything other than what it is instinctually.

We have been given the power to create, reason, rationalize, adapt, and change.

All this time I have taken all those things for granted.


I really don’t know.

It could be laziness or lack of knowledge.

I once heard that we take our mind for granted because it was given to us for free.

We didn’t have to work for it, and we didn’t have to earn it.

It was given to us so we do not see the importance in the power of the mind.

Some people have been so programmed with fear of failure and criticism that they cannot think big enough to dream big.

The self-doubt and content begins to be our reality because it is safe and comfortable.

I admit I had some problems recently, or so I thought…

But what I have realized is how much your own mind can trick you into thinking things are worse than they really are.

Don’t focus on your problems because that won’t change a thing.

Focus your energy on solutions and I guarantee your problems will soon fade away.


Your Actions Lead to Results

I had a discussion with a friend about the importance of taking action.

I explained that taking action is the most important thing a person can do when it comes to success and growth.

You can have all the knowledge in the world, but if you don’t apply that knowledge then it is useless in the achievement of anything.

One of the biggest differences between the successful and unsuccessful often times is action.

How many times have you heard someone express that they have all these brilliant ideas, but never put those ideas into effect? I’ll wait…

Exactly! I’m sure hundreds if not thousands of time.

Many people have dreams, which is marvelous but a dream is just that until one takes the initiative to turn that dream into reality.

You can have faith, belief, and goals but without any action there is no possibility of results.

We have all been placed here for a reason and quite often people never take the time to figure out their true meaning, their purpose in life.

Sometimes it’s because they don’t believe they can, don’t know how, or are afraid of what might happen.

Many people are comfortable where they are. Not having the courage to live up to their fullest potential.

There are many people that go through life wishing and hoping they had more, but are afraid to step outside of the box to go get what they deserve because they are afraid of change.

They continue to do the same things…living their lives in a rut.

Why is action so important?

I believe action has the ability to build character. Action is always positive because it changes your psyche.

Action has the ability to open up your mind to things you never knew were possible for yourself.

You begin to realize that things you were afraid of or felt like you could not do aren’t as bad as you thought.

Or maybe you realize they are as bad as you thought, but you no longer have the doubt, thus expanding yourself to do other things.

I can remember back when I didn’t know how to swim.

I would always be on the shallow end while my friends were having fun in the deep end.

A friend recommended that I come over to the deep end so I could be a part of the group activities.

I decided to give it a shot.

Having imagined myself swimming and having enough confidence in myself to at least know how to “doggy paddle” I jumped into the deep end and literally began swimming.

I would have never known I could swim if I would have never took action.

After that I learned how to breast stroke, free style, butterfly, and back stroke.

My actions lead to the ability to become an efficient swimmer through practice and a positive mind.

You see action has the awesome ability of removing fear and opening up your mind to a world of endless possibility.

When you take action you gain experience and experience can lead to expertise.

So be brave, but not stupid.

Face that fear and take action now!